You live in a box of your own creation
If you refuse to allow yourself to see that you created your box by choosing who to be, you'll never find your way out of that box.
Your box is your self-image as it relates to your current concept of reality. It's your perception of who you are--your way of relating to whomever and whatever you've made significant in your life. But what you call reality (your box) is merely an illusion made out of nothing more concrete than your attitudes, opinions, points of view, and conclusions about whatever you've made important.
By choosing a point of view (taking a stand) on anything, you are essentially deciding who you will BE relative to that or any similar circumstance or condition. When you chose how you would relate to life, you created your self-image.
By choosing who you will BE, you've created your box. Nothing wrong with having an opinion or coming to a conclusion, except that once we take a stand on anything, we tend to forget that it's just an assumption.
We then accept our opinions as facts, convinced that our chosen point of view is the only way life is, and then we're stuck with that as our reality. Once that concept of reality becomes real to us, we're boxed in and there's no way out, or so it seems.
As a boy, I lived in a box called and inferiority complex. I dreamed about what life might be like if I no longer felt inferior. I read every self-help book I could find that might help me THINK my way out of that box. Gradually my vision of being self-confident began to seem more real to me--more and more believable.
In other words, my hope became a belief and then a conviction. You must believe in the possibility of a new reality before you can choose it
A dream is a figment of your imagination--a pipe dream until you take it outside your box and make it real. --Darel Rutherford
At some point in that transformation process (that's what it was), I made a solid choice to BE self-confident. Choosing a bigger box only seems to be about deciding what you must DO; it's really about choosing to BE the one who can DO whatever is required, naturally.
Once I chose to BE that self-confident person, things began to happen to demonstrate that I rally was living in a bigger box. That's the way it will happen for you once you've made up your mind to BE more self-confident.
So, you live in a box. What you need to realize is that one of your options, right now is to come out of that box. Now would be a good time to remember that you created the current reality with a BEING choice and to know that you can create a whole new reality with a new BEING commitment.